Dear North Carolina, You Did it Wrong

Tuesday was election day in North Carolina.  On the ballot was the issue of gay rights.  Once again, it failed to pass as we have seen happen multiple times across the country.  I have to wonder, why are gay rights even an issue? And how is it possible that there are so many people in this country who still have their heads up their asses?

If you listen to the haters out there, they will quote the bible, (although they are hard pressed to find the exact verse, and usually it’s pulled out of context) about how man shall not lie with man.  *side note, have you ever noticed it’s only MALE gay rights they have a problem with? If two girls want to get it on, they want permission to watch.  The gay rights issue isn’t about sex.  Shocking, I know.  It’s about denying or allowing (allowing, what a pompous fucking word to use… we allow you to love your partner.) gays to love who they love.  Openly. With the same rights and benefits afforded heterosexual couples. A friend of mine who happens to be a gay man once said to me, there can be no real progress on this issue until we get it out of the bedroom.  This isn’t a sex issue, it’s a love, commitment, partner issue.

We have Constitutional Rights, and God Given Rights. I have read the Declaration of Independence. We are given the right to Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Happiness, those three things are considered inalienable rights of men.  So who the hell are these closed-minded numbnuts who think they have been given the right to trample all over gays’ right to pursue happiness?  And why do they think they have the authority to determine what happiness looks like.

In the interest of pursuing attention millions of dollars happiness, Kim Kardashian was allowed, by law, to marry and divorce Kris Humphries all in less time than it took for Jackie Chan to travel around the world. Years ago, Britney Spears was allowed, by law, to marry and divorce Jason Alexander faster than it took the ink to dry on the marriage license. Because clearly those marriages still upheld the sanctity of the institution of marriage and didn’t make a mockery of it in any way. Clearly. How many people around the country get married for green cards?  How many get married for health insurance?  How many get married for tax breaks?  How many people get married every fucking year for reasons that have absolutely nothing to do with love?

And yet, there are thousands upon thousands of people across the country who can’t get married for love.

Gay rights, though, isn’t just about getting married. When the state doesn’t recognize the relationship, the commitment gay couples have, then there are a whole slew of other issues to contend with.  They can’t be covered on each other’s insurance, they can’t make any critical life saving decision in hospitals, it’s difficult if not impossible to adopt children.  Which frankly is a whole lot of bullshit.  Because once a heterosexual couple have been together for seven years, it’s considered a common law marriage and they have all the legal rights a  couple with a state issued marriage license has.  Excuse me, What?!?!

So basically what you are saying is, living together without being married  is not only OK but is treated the same as a marriage, but marrying someone of the same-sex is not. Double standard much?

We may be fighting the battle in every state in the country over and over again, but the war will have to be waged in the United States Supreme Court.  Until they say it is unconstitutional for states to prevent gays from getting married, until they say it is unconstitutional for states to withhold anyone’s right to pursue happiness, until the Supreme Court says Hey Assholes get off your pompous high horses because it says that all men are created equal and should be afforded the same and equal rights, there will be people who know the true meaning of love and commitment who can not get married, and people who don’t, that can.